Tagged with BEHAVIOR!

Intention

“Much—even most—meaning in conversation does not reside in the words spoken at all, but is filled in by the person listening. … [How] individuals will tend to interpret someone else’s words … depends more on the hearer’s own focus, concerns, and habits than on the spirit in which the words were intended.” –Deborah Tannen An … Continue reading

Comic

A few years ago, my supportive mother assured me that growing up with McDiesel would shape his big brother Typ into a tolerant, sensitive, and patient person. Typ would wind up an all-around good citizen for having to suffer the often unpredictable, incomprehensible, and unprovoked storms of McD’s behavior. McD’s behaviorist–tactfully–found this theory to be … Continue reading

Coincidence

Last week, McDiesel got invited to a classmate’s birthday party. After the initial (and, as usual, all-too-brief) excitement of finding the invitation in his school folder once he got home, he declares (as usual, with all the oppositional vehemence he can muster) that he is NOT going. (Shocker.) Big Bro Typ, sitting next to him … Continue reading

Rubicon

Two years ago, during a session with our Beloved Behaviorist, she warned me that watching your child adjust to medication can be tough. As the doctor determines the right match of drug and dosage, she said, his personality might… disappear. McD’s behavior might do us all in, but his personality is/can be great. I had … Continue reading

Heroes

“He never gets scared on a mission—even when it looks dangerous.” “He is energetic and unpredictable. … He is bold in battle and always ready for action.” “He is enthusiastic and fearless.” “[He] can be very clumsy and is always bumping into things. Maybe this is because…he usually acts first and thinks later!” Sounds like … Continue reading

Puppies

Sometimes I swear McDiesel and the puppy are in competition for who can destroy the house first. The puppy chewed the corners off the vintage needlepoint seats of my 1920s mahogany dining chairs, but McD had already thrown a few of them over so many times they’re pretty much sticks anyway. So it’s kind of … Continue reading

Signs

We are getting close to meds. I can feel it. I’ve been seeing a lot of signs lately, even though I’m not sure signs really exist. Things are adding up, the scales are tipping, I’ve about given up. This week alone, I got my hair cut and had a 45-minute conversation with my stylist about … Continue reading

Gloucester

Six weeks into Kindergarten, this is already a school year of firsts: first Squiggly and/or Frowny Face on behavior chart, first successful boycott of carpool, and now, as of yesterday, first call home from teacher. I shouldn’t be surprised, but I am, of course, surprised. Mrs. W. just wants to make us aware of An … Continue reading

Boycott

This morning, McDiesel successfully boycotts the carpool to school—for the first time in history. Five minutes before the horn honks in our driveway, he commences complete meltdown over having to go to school, having to go to school with them, having to go to school in their car. He is a mess. I have five … Continue reading

Genes

This morning, see psychiatrist. He is a colleague of Beloved Behaviorist, has multiple advanced degrees, and is very good. Asks how things are going, how kids are doing, all that. Laughs that Beloved Behaviorist asked him if he thinks I’m ADHD. Am pulled up short by this and clarify, “If I am ADHD?” He nods. … Continue reading