Regular

There are many advantages to living in a small town. But having your pharmacist know you by name and prescription history is not one of them. Our pharmacist is the nicest guy on earth. He is so friendly, so upbeat, so unfazed no matter what the script says that I slide (usually abashedly) across the … Continue reading

Intention

“Much—even most—meaning in conversation does not reside in the words spoken at all, but is filled in by the person listening. … [How] individuals will tend to interpret someone else’s words … depends more on the hearer’s own focus, concerns, and habits than on the spirit in which the words were intended.” –Deborah Tannen An … Continue reading

Fix

On the one hand, I can’t believe I suffered—for years—such anguish over meds. I imagined them as powerful and permanent. As irrevocably changing McDiesel’s personality and seeping into the essence of who he is.*  Some days, that undoubtedly would’ve been a good thing, but for a very long time I was first heartbroken and then … Continue reading

Comic

A few years ago, my supportive mother assured me that growing up with McDiesel would shape his big brother Typ into a tolerant, sensitive, and patient person. Typ would wind up an all-around good citizen for having to suffer the often unpredictable, incomprehensible, and unprovoked storms of McD’s behavior. McD’s behaviorist–tactfully–found this theory to be … Continue reading

Waiting

Maybe because I’m teaching a Women’s Studies course this Spring, and maybe because Carol of Words’ post about hugs really resonated, I’ve been thinking a lot about waiting rooms as empowering spaces lately. I think this is a safe generalization: When you have a kid with a special need, you spend a good amount of … Continue reading

Coincidence

Last week, McDiesel got invited to a classmate’s birthday party. After the initial (and, as usual, all-too-brief) excitement of finding the invitation in his school folder once he got home, he declares (as usual, with all the oppositional vehemence he can muster) that he is NOT going. (Shocker.) Big Bro Typ, sitting next to him … Continue reading

Rubicon

Two years ago, during a session with our Beloved Behaviorist, she warned me that watching your child adjust to medication can be tough. As the doctor determines the right match of drug and dosage, she said, his personality might… disappear. McD’s behavior might do us all in, but his personality is/can be great. I had … Continue reading

Heroes

“He never gets scared on a mission—even when it looks dangerous.” “He is energetic and unpredictable. … He is bold in battle and always ready for action.” “He is enthusiastic and fearless.” “[He] can be very clumsy and is always bumping into things. Maybe this is because…he usually acts first and thinks later!” Sounds like … Continue reading

Puppies

Sometimes I swear McDiesel and the puppy are in competition for who can destroy the house first. The puppy chewed the corners off the vintage needlepoint seats of my 1920s mahogany dining chairs, but McD had already thrown a few of them over so many times they’re pretty much sticks anyway. So it’s kind of … Continue reading

Signs

We are getting close to meds. I can feel it. I’ve been seeing a lot of signs lately, even though I’m not sure signs really exist. Things are adding up, the scales are tipping, I’ve about given up. This week alone, I got my hair cut and had a 45-minute conversation with my stylist about … Continue reading